Since living well with my chronic conditions is one of my priorities I have learned how valuable communication is and all of the variables that are in good communication. Once thing that I have heard over and over in my support groups that I belong to is not being understood by anyone and how much that affects healing of the individual who feels not understood. In T.D. Jakes newest book Don’t Drop the Mic he talks about communication from being a preacher point of view. However, I believe this is a good book for everyone despite wanting to be a speaker or not. Learning what communication is and all the elements that are involved helps in healing and in relationships.
This quote from his book illustrates one of the elements of how valuable being understood and how it affects communication: “Understanding serves as the glue of effective communication. Being understood and understanding others require shared consideration of context, motive, intention, and culture. Understanding leads to shared space where common values emerge along with goals of mutual benefit. Your emotional seedbed flourishes in an environment where you are understood. Your economic fortitude is enhanced, your value to the team accrues when you are able both to understand others, and to be understood; and your ability to lead grows proportionately.” I will add my own two cents from the perspective of being a patient and working with my medical team. If I do not feel like my medical team is understanding what I am trying to convey to them about what is going on with my body that breaks down the relationship and causes me harm because I will end up frustrated and feeling rebellious towards the action plan. The same for the medical team, if they do not feel like I am understanding them and I am not following the action plan then they feel embitter towards me and not want to help me in the long run. I think this same thing happens with marriages, parent and child, and sibling and friendship type of relationships. Not feeling understood breaks down the relationship and causes pain. I am not going to spoil the book for you, if you want to know how to be a great communicator or a great speaker like T.D. Jakes you just have to purchase your own copy of Don’t Drop the Mic.
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I received this book from Faith Words. The opinions I express are my own and I was not influenced.
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